A Test Of Character?

The Ascetic Experience is a blog I subscribe to because I love the pictures and meditations of this group of Greek monks. Orthodoxy has a unique beauty.

They wrote a small piece about how to find a good spouse, and one of the points was this:

“Observe him around girls or women with whom he is not interested in having a relationship, like a sister or feeble or old woman. How does he behave around them? Here you will see his true character.”

Obviously you can substitute ‘her’ for ‘him’, but I think the point has merit. Every life has value and something unique to offer. Don’t settle for a friend or spouse who ignores certain people or treats them like they’re worthless.

Everybody Needs a Hug

A friend just let me know that today is National Hugging Day.

So, hugs for everyone!

Don’t neglect the gift of a loving touch for people and pets – and even a beloved stuffed toy or doll.

Yet Another List of Suggestions

Another day, another list about how to have a good life. Take it or leave it.

  • Move more. Eat less.
  • Do your part. It’s your job.
  • Make an effort. Don’t blame.
  • Fuse creativity with what you love.
  • Drink more water.
  • One size does not fit all. Decide for yourself.
  • Strive for balanced optimism, accountability, productivity and charm.
  • Embrace Hygge – the Danish art of Contentment, Comfort, and Connection.
  • Find a few ways to reduce the chaos and simplify your life.
  • Be a friend. Connect and commit.

I’ve Been Thinking

It’s the title of a very nice book by Maria Shriver about finding a meaningful life. In it she includes the Prayer of Saint Francis:

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace:

where there is hatred, let me sow love;

where there is injury, pardon;

where there is doubt, faith;

where there is despair, hope;

where there is darkness, light;

where there is sadness, joy.

O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek

to be consoled as to console,

to be understood as to understand,

to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive,

it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,

and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.



The algorithm made me do it.


Charlie Munger

He is the other half of Warren Buffett and Berkshire Hathaway. Smart guy.

Here is one of his quotes, from the book The Tao of Charlie Munger:

“The highest form that civilization can reach is a seamless web of deserved trust – not much procedure, just totally reliable people correctly trusting one another…In your own life what you want is a seamless web of deserved trust. And if your proposed marriage contract has forty-seven pages, I suggest you not enter.”

charlie munger

Honesty, Forgiveness and Love. A simple recipe for a palatable life.

Room For Improvement

What does it feel like to be you right now?

What part of you hasn’t shown up in your life yet?

I have a big project to work on this year. It’s called me. I have to excavate some troubling traits and backfill my life with the qualities of people I admire.

The greatest gift you can bring to the table of your relationships is a healthy, kind, forgiving, loving, encouraging, helpful, connected heart. It’s never too late.

Thank God for that.


Don’t even bother with a resolution. You won’t keep it.

Something I like better is the concept of OneWord365, where you pick a single word to embody how you want to be in the world in the new year.

My word last year was Unlock, and this year I have chosen Strengthen. And since I’m sitting here with a broken wrist, increasing deafness from Meniere’s Disease, and the flu, I need my health strengthened. And my mind, body, finances, relationships, faith, how I use my time, etc.


Merry Christmas From TFO!

Got this from a friend – a nice thing to say at dinner:

Bless the food before us,
the people beside us,
and the love between us.

(P.S. Today is my birthday, and yes, I get ripped off.)

Christmas Eve and Scrooge

The ghosts visited Scrooge on Christmas Eve, so if you are feeling kinda sour, there is still time for a renovation of your heart. Here are some nice quotes to get you un-Grinched.

And, find time to watch some of the films with a heart: A Christmas Carol with Alistair Sim; Charlie Brown Christmas; It’s A Wonderful Life; A Christmas Story; White Christmas; The Polar Express; The Honeymooners Christmas Special and the original animated Grinch -not the horrible Jim Carrey version.

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