Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

A friend sent this along. I had read the article but had never seen the video. Well worth the twenty minutes to understand relationships in a fresh and humourous way.

Nature Deficit Disorder

“In an age when climate crisis is only growing in urgency, Terry Tempest Williams offers some explanation for how we might have ended up here. She says we’re losing a heightened curiosity about — and awareness of our interconnectivity with — the natural world. And, in turn, “we’re losing an ecological literacy,” she says, for the flora and fauna around our homes — from the migratory behaviors of birds to the life cycle of coyotes.”

“But the loss of this ecological literacy is not just a loss of our knowledge about the natural world — it’s also potentially a severance of our ability to learn from itBiologist Robin Wall Kimmerer models the richness that comes from examining the natural world as we might examine ourselves. “Thinking about plants as persons, indeed, thinking about rocks as persons, forces us to shed our idea [that] the only pace that we live in is the human pace,” she says. “It’s very, very exciting to think about these ways of being which happen on completely different scales and so exciting to think about what we might learn from them,” she says. Kimmerer models this in her studies and writing about moss, which she calls “good storytellers” and “superb teachers about living within your means” for their ancient history here on earth.”

“Thinking at various scales, as Kimmerer does, can lead to fascinating discoveries. On this week’s show, acoustic biologist Katy Payne shares how her research into how whales and elephants communicate required her to examine sounds that humans are not capable of hearing on their own. And the experience of listening attentively to these giant animals over decades has taught her something about being human. “We are not at the pinnacle of human knowledge,” she says. “We are just beginning.”

“There’s a humility about humanity that surfaces in all three of these conversations. I wonder if it’s the same kind we may need to hold closer as we’re faced with the climate crisis — a reminder that we are not the only ones who inhabit this earth.”

Kristin Lin
Editor, The On Being Project:”

I subscribe to a website called The Pause. You can check it out here.

Read Seneca

Just saw the fabulous play ‘Art’ by Yasmina Reza at Soulpepper. A line in the play is ‘Read Seneca’, which I have.

Seneca was born around 4 B.C. but his insights are still worth thinking about:

“Let our aim be a way of life not diametrically opposed to, but better than that of the mob.”

“There is no enjoying the possession of anything valuable unless one has someone to share it with.”

“Associate with people who are likely to improve you.”

“Only the wise man is content with what is his. All foolishness suffers the burden of dissatisfaction with itself.”

“…isn’t it the height of folly to learn inessential things when time’s so desperately short!…every life without exception is a short one.”

“With afflictions of the spirit, though, the opposite is the case: the worse a person is, the less he feels it…acknowledging one’s failings is a sign of health.”

“A man is as unhappy as he has convinced himself he is…everything hangs on one’s thinking…What’s the good of dragging up sufferings which are over, of being unhappy now just because you were then?…when some trouble or other comes to an end the natural thing is to be glad.”

“the feeling that one is tired of being, of existing, is usually the result of an idle and inactive leisure…Let us expand our life: action is its theme and duty.”

“drunkenness is nothing but a state of self-induced insanity.”

“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realize how unnecessary many things are.”

“To govern was to serve, not to rule.”

“To be really respected is to be loved: and love and fear will not mix.”

“Every day, every hour sees a change in you, although the ravages of time are easier to see in others.”

“And what madness it is to deny ourself everything and so build up a fortune for your heir…for the more he’s going to get the more gleeful he’s going to be at your death.”

Christmas Follows Labour Day

In my world, that seems to be the case. Time speeds up – Labour Day, Thanksgiving, Halloween, then Christmas, in what feels like 3 weeks.

And you know what that means – the cold and flu season will soon be upon us, and I think we need to call for a ban on patterned Kleenex.

Not all of them of course. The Sniff brand have very delightful illustrations, and an unexpected funny image on a tissue can make a sad person smile.

But save us from the shock and worry of the multiple nosebleeds we didn’t have – it was just the damn red pattern on the Kleenex from an innocent nose blowing episode.

If you do happen to get a real nose bleed, here is a cure from Spring Forest Qigong. Open your fingers and hold your hands above your head, making sure your elbows are above your shoulders. If blood is coming out from our right nostril, raise your left hand. If blood is coming out from your left nostril, raise your right hand. If blood is coming out from both nostrils, raise both hands. A good thing to teach kids too.

All The Light We Cannot See

A few years ago, I was in a lovely book shop in Cobourg. I always like to ask book store owners about their favourite books. The owner took one from the shelf and pressed it into my hands. One look at the thickness, and I knew it wasn’t for me.

I like thin books, and that one was about 500 pages long. When I resisted she grabbed my arm and implored me to read it. “You must.” she said.

I still refused.

At the cabin this year, I had long stretches of time while the builders fixed the foundation piers and stairs. So I took a chance and got the book from the library.

Unbelievably brilliant. I couldn’t put it down. My royal consort loved it too.

Have you heard of the Georgia Guidestones

Some have referred to them as the satanic ten commandments.

Have a look. If you dare.

Atheism A La Carte

Like the trend forecaster Gerald Celente, I am a political atheist. I don’t believe in politicians.

However, it is always an amusing spectacle of liars accusing other liars of lying.

Somebody said that election primaries are just the puppet masters test marketing the puppets. The final candidates are more test marketing to find the most convincing liar. And voila – the winner.

They always lie. Why do you waste your time listening to them? Join the political atheists, it’s so liberating. No more wasting brain cells listening to them. No more anger at their broken promises. No more engaging in fruitless discussions. When you don’t participate – nothing happens. The political machinery carries on as always, and really, it seems to be more Corporatocracy than Democracy. Our part in it has probably always been a fiction – it’s rule by the rich and we are not oligarchs or plutocrats.

Try it. The next time someone asks you about your political affiliations, say “I’m a political atheist. I don’t believe in politicians.” You won’t miss arguing about it, and your blood pressure will thank you.



Wearing White

To my knowledge, this advice has never appeared in any magazine or article about fashion. My youthful, white, Pepsodent smile is no more. And I didn’t even take Tetracycline as a teenager. It’s just aging.

So I had to remove all the white articles of clothing and jewellery from my closet and donate them. The contrast to the teeth was just too much. Try it yourself – hold up a piece of white paper to your mouth and you will see what I mean. I predict a donation deluge of white earrings and t-shirts to the Salvation Army Thrift Shops. And then a mad rush to the stores to purchase new fashion items in the colour of old ivory piano keys.

If you have amazing genetics and pearly whites, feel free to ignore this advice.

I’m not going to waste money whitening my teeth. Now that I’m a writer, I will just wait until I get liver disease and jaundice, so then the whites of my eyes will match the colour of my teeth.

Wounds From a Friend

For various reasons, our herd of friends undergoes a natural thinning over the years like our hair.

Sometimes it was because they asked us for our opinion, and we thought they wanted the truth, so we told them, and they were hurt and angry and left us.

The following is from an article written by Poh Fang Chia, where she also quotes from Proverbs 27:6 – Wounds from a friend can be trusted:

“Charles Lowery complained to his friend about lower back pain. He was seeking a sympathetic ear, but what he got was an honest assessment. His friend told him, “I don’t think your back pain is your problem; it’s your stomach. Your stomach is so big it’s pulling on your back.” Charles resisted the temptation to be offended. He lost the weight and his back problem went away.”

“The trouble is that so often we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism, for truth hurts. It bruises our ego, makes us uncomfortable, and calls for change. True friends don’t find pleasure in hurting us. Rather, they love us too much to deceive us. They are people who, with loving courage, point out what we may already know but find hard to truly accept and live by. They tell us not only what we like to hear but also what we need to hear. “

Perhaps it is time to reconsider our opinion of those ‘annoying’ friends. If we have been living on a diet of deceitful flattery, maybe we should taste test the fruits of beneficial truth once in a while.

If Fitbit was a Blog

7:00 a.m Time to get up your eyes have dried up overnight use the artificial tears scoop the litter box feed the cat put the dishes away don’t forget your toast and tea and the fifteen vitamins you missed vitamin D it’s winter you know feed the cat the real chicken and tuna too you know that commercial cat food is crap the garbage is full the bird feeder is empty the downstairs litter is dirty remember to meditate do the thymus thump for your stress you are using the computer a lot so remember to blink your eyes are dry again do those reflexology points for your health the cat needs to play you haven’t phoned your friend in a while give your husband a hug learn something clean something finish something book the appointment with the bookkeeper the dishes are dirty mail’s here pay the bills you’re not going to wear that are you do your exercise all of it stretching cardio abs the cat is howling the yard is a mess you don’t have anything for dinner that white plate is stained go downstairs get the bleach go back downstairs put the bleach back take the laundry downstairs the shower curtain is dirty the candles need to be replaced the book is overdue at the library fill the Berkey downstairs again for paper towels remove the cat hair with the lint remover somebody is at the door the lightbulb has burned out reset the clock vacuum and steam clean the hardwood you haven’t laughed lately it’s good for your health exercise those eye muscles you forgot to drink more water.

8:00 a.m.

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