This post dissects a few common accusations that sociopaths use against you.

“You overanalyze everything.” This is meant to make you doubt your intuition, which usually means your intuition was causing them trouble. When they start playing mind games with you, it’s actually a warped, indirect tribute to your ability to notice that something was off about them.

“I hate drama.” They will make you feel bad for reacting to their horrible behaviours, instead of addressing the behaviour itself.

“You’re so sensitive.” Psychopaths manufacture emotions in others. They can turn an easy going person into an unrecognizable mess of insecurities and self-doubt.

“You misunderstood me.” They will intentionally say things to provoke you. When you react, they will blame you.

“You’re crazy, jealous, etc.” They will tell you how all of their former partners were nuts. Then, they reach out to them to triangulate and cause chaos. They toss you into the crazy bucket, continuing the cycle of idealizing and devaluing anyone unfortunate enough to cross their path.

The ego structure of the character disordered person depends on being right, and to admit an error of judgement destroys their carefully constructed image of themselves. They are masters at painting their victims as the real culprits.

They lie with remarkable ease. Watch for the frequent use of contradictory and logically inconsistent statements. They have trouble monitoring their own speech.

Make sure you are never swayed by words and blind to deeds.

Wrong.

The silent treatment, ghosting, gas lighting, passive-aggression – these mind games that ignore people and make them feel worthless and depressed – are deliberate efforts to cause harm. The abuser needs to feel in control. But the scars are on the inside of the victim, so most people never notice their pain.

Emotional abuse is where standard caring societal messages (I love you, etc.) are linked with abandonment to destroy self-confidence.

Is it going to increase? With constant access to digital devices, an entire generation can escape into a screen to avoid uncomfortable emotions. The resultant failure to develop mental strengths, like emotional availability, does not bode well for healthy and happy long lasting relationships.

Love is the capacity to be happy and make others happy. There is no eudemonia when you are starved of love and meaningful connection.

Most of the advice offered to people stuck in a cycle of abuse is to leave.

Go forward for happiness – not back.

http://www.no2abuse.com/index.php/articles/comments/silent-abuse-the-mind-game-by-teresa-cooper

Personality disorders are a prime cause of interpersonal conflict. I’ll be writing a lot about this topic. There are a lot of psychological abusers out there masquerading as people.

Generally, people tend to hate those who make them feel their own inferiority. And since that’s just about everybody, there is a lot to talk about.

Like Baskin Robbins, there are many flavours of mental illness. The current DSM is over 900 pages long. Narcissism, Borderline, Histrionic, Antisocial – these make up the flavours of the cluster b disorders.

And of course we have the Dark Triad, the Covert Aggressive, the Passive Aggressive, the Everyday Sadist, etc., etc., etc.

Google it. You will learn a lot about the people who make your life miserable, so you can avoid them forever.