This cartoon illustrates the limits of our freedom.
There is another existentialist puzzle buried in this cartoon – namely, “Who the hell do those ducks think they are?”
From the book Plato and a Platypus Walk into a Bar.
Unusually long URL, but it still opens with one click.
In the book Red Flags by Wendy Patrick, she created an easy -to-remember mnemonic called FLAG. It is useful for enhancing our tools of perception so we can pay attention to the people around us, and hopefully, weed out the nasties.
Focus: What captures the person’s attention? Do they focus on themselves or others?
Lifestyle: How does the person spend their time? What are their hobbies and interests?
Associations: What sort of company do they keep? Do they have a close friend that they have known for years? To what organizations do they belong?
Goals: What are their priorities? Are their ambitions selfish or selfless?
These four areas can provide a glimpse below the surface, in order to shed light on the motivation behind the moves.
And, as always, pay attention to what people do, not what they say. Words are cheap.
Do yourself a favour and watch this 5 minute video to the end, to prove to yourself that you are one of the few who still has an open mind, and your brain is capable of listening to an opinion you might disagree with.
It is a rare talent, and I want my readers to win all the gold medals in the Best Brain Olympics.
We seem to be in a vortex of Mayella Ewell in To Kill a Mockingbird, and “I saw Goody Proctor with the devil” hysteria.
Every week a new sexual assault accusation, aka #MeToo.
“Knowing what really happened is more important than deciding who to punish…Are you unsafe, or are you instead uncomfortable, angry or hurt?…We are required by decency to ask both the complainant and the accused how they understand the situation…How previous experiences of trauma contribute to an individual’s understanding of whether or not an experience is Abuse is a factor that we do not have a process of integrating into our understanding of objective crime or objective justice.”Sarah Schulman author of Conflict is not abuse
I feel sorry for the judges who will have to rule on some of the more specious cases.
“He touched me inappropriately 25 years ago when we were alone together!”
Guilty or Innocent?
From Aristotles Way by Edith Hall:
Ask yourself a number of diagnostic questions like: What sort of moral being am I right now? Am I prone to envy, revenge, rage or lust, overblown confidence or secretive cowardice?
Authenticity and self-knowledge are non-negotiable. If you are unwilling to self-reflect, true happiness can never be yours, because of vice. Aristotle observed the misery of immoral people: “These miserable reprobates, who can’t stand to be alone with themselves, can’t fully experience their own joys and sorrows, as there is a civil war in their souls.”
Now is always the right time to mend a divided heart. Or at least remove yourself from those who refuse to.
What has happened to genuine and healthy discussions about differences of opinion? Now there is no desire for discussion, only derision and ad hominem attacks. Factual rebuttals are ignored. Society is currently very angry, and anger never enhances logical coherent thinking. In fact, it does the opposite.
‘People do not wish to appear foolish, to avoid the appearance of foolishness, they are willing to actually remain fools.’Alice Walker
Where are the minds capable of analysis and reconsideration?
When words become weapons, our relationships soon become casualties.
Mental toughness is stability and poise in the face of challenges. Snowflakes can be crafted out of metal instead of water. And I’m addressing Snowflakes of every generation, not just the young.
Here is a better idea: Learn Resilience, Not Indignation.
Some people think that the only way they will ever be able to do anything is if they win the lottery.
What they don’t realize is that they have won the lottery – the lottery of brains and talent. But they never cash in the winning ticket, it just sits in the drawer.
Periodically, they lift it out of the drawer and look at it, turn it over, muse about it with some regret, but always put it back into a safe place.
A place of no risk, no attempt, no effort. The essence of an underachiever.
Kudos to everyone who cashed in their winning ticket. You have made the world a better place by sharing your gifts.
Victims of psychological abuse have scars on their hands from touching certain people. Never waste your brain on people who don’t value you.
Let no man pull you low enough to make you hate him.
Loving someone who doesn’t love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport.
Abusers have to pretend that their victims are bad people so they don’t feel guilty about the things they did. Toxic people do not question themselves or self-reflect.
People with character disorders show you who you don’t want to be.
Haters are people terrified of their own emptiness.
Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Remember who you really are – not who they needed you to be.
Why now? Some thoughts:
Bonding and moral order and conventional activities can control substance abuse.
The weakening of social bonds increases drug use.
Feelings of support, understanding, respect and appreciation contribute to decreased cannabis use.
There is a positive relationship between social media and increased substance abuse.
Insufficient bonds with conformity, and bonding in the virtual world increase drug use.
Social breakdown causes a higher deviance in women due to their greater attachment to others.
Lack of social bonds = higher use
Higher use = decreased social bonds to conventional societies like church and family.
Anxiety and stress increase drug use.
Possible Conclusion: We are ripe for the picking due to social engineering. Or, the children of the 60’s are now running things and this is their midlife crisis.