For various reasons, our herd of friends undergoes a natural thinning over the years like our hair.
Sometimes it was because they asked us for our opinion, and we thought they wanted the truth, so we told them, and they were hurt and angry and left us.
The following is from an article written by Poh Fang Chia, where she also quotes from Proverbs 27:6 – Wounds from a friend can be trusted:
“Charles Lowery complained to his friend about lower back pain. He was seeking a sympathetic ear, but what he got was an honest assessment. His friend told him, “I don’t think your back pain is your problem; it’s your stomach. Your stomach is so big it’s pulling on your back.” Charles resisted the temptation to be offended. He lost the weight and his back problem went away.”
“The trouble is that so often we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism, for truth hurts. It bruises our ego, makes us uncomfortable, and calls for change. True friends don’t find pleasure in hurting us. Rather, they love us too much to deceive us. They are people who, with loving courage, point out what we may already know but find hard to truly accept and live by. They tell us not only what we like to hear but also what we need to hear. “
Perhaps it is time to reconsider our opinion of those ‘annoying’ friends. If we have been living on a diet of deceitful flattery, maybe we should taste test the fruits of beneficial truth once in a while.